Heartbreak is tough, no matter who you are. There’s no right way of handling heartbreak, everyone does what they think will help them get through it. But there are some differences in how men and women tend to cope with it.
First off, let’s talk about how men deal with heartbreak. Stereotypically, men are often considered ‘tough’ and less emotional than women. This can make men feel like they need to act like a ‘man’ and not show vulnerability. So fucked up! Men should never feel ashamed of showing their feelings. But, that’s a whole other discussion…
However, that’s why it’s so much harder for men to get past a breakup because they try to distract themselves with work, sports, alcohol, drugs to numb the pain. They might also try to rush into a new relationship or fuck random girls to avoid dealing with their feelings. They don’t necessarily strive for a ‘proper’ and a ‘healthy’ healing. And this can lead to recurring patterns in future relationships.
Women, on the other hand, tend to show their feelings when they’re heartbroken. Also, if a woman breaks up with her partner, it’s very likely she has thought about it for months ahead. Basically, in a way, she has already embraced the idea of the breakup. But, they will for sure cry, talk to their friends and family, or seek therapy, if needed.
Women are also more likely to take time for self-care activities such as a spa visit or vacation to help ease the pain. That’s how we cope. SELF-CARE, baby!
Regardless of gender, it’s important to take the time to heal properly after a heartbreak. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself and don’t try to distract yourself with work or other activities. Instead, take the time to reflect on the relationship and what went wrong. Journaling or talking to your friends can be helpful. Try focusing on self-care activities, such as exercise, meditation or spending time with loved ones. And remember, healing takes time. Don’t blame yourself if you haven’t moved on from the relationship as quickly as you’d like.
So, while there are some general differences in how men and women deal with heartbreak, each person is unique and deals with their feelings differently. The most important thing is to take care of yourself and give yourself time to recover properly. You’re not alone in this journey!