Self-control, a superpower we all wish we had. A mental tug-of-war between what you wish you did and what you actually did. An impulsive action can trigger a multitude of reactions within your mind that can affect your thoughts, emotions and decision-making process. While immediate gratification can be alluring, understanding the effects of impulsive actions on your mind can empower you to make more conscious decisions. Decisions that align with your broader aspirations and values.
I ain’t no guru in this department. Self-control is a quality you master with time. The wiser you get, the more you’ll be able to control your temper. Of course, I am trying my best.
Last time I almost lost it big time was when I was in Madrid’s airport. I was going back to Bucharest. The employees in the airport were extremely rude, especially a lady there who was supposed to ‘help us’. Yeah, right, this woman made everything harder for us and instead of helping us she was telling us to leave. Bitch, where the fuck should we go? Whatever, fast forward after she was being an extreme pain in the ass, she literally physically assaulted me. And afterwards, she came up into my face and started cussing me down in Spanish.
My first instinct was to punch her in the face and cuss her down as well. I took a step back from the situation and chilled for a second. I knew this scenario wouldn’t have been to my advantage. Even though, trust me, I was trembling with anger. We just asked for her manager and they didn’t really care, but at least I didn’t act on my urges, which was very tempting to do at the moment.
Usually, I lose it when I am very hungry. Like I can’t control my feelings anymore, I can’t even think straight. So, sorry if you’ve ever had to be in my presence when I was super hungry. :))) These are some of the things that have helped me manage my emotions better:
Mindfulness and Meditation: Practicing mindfulness and meditation can help you become more aware of your emotions without judgment. It allows you to observe your feelings and thoughts from a distance, which can lead to better emotional regulation.
Deep Breathing: Taking slow, deep breaths can help calm your nervous system and reduce feelings of stress or anxiety. It’s a simple technique that can be used anywhere, anytime. I know it’s not going to be what you think of when you get angry, but don’t knock it until you try it.
Journaling: Writing about your emotions and experiences in a journal will provide clarity and insight. It’s like having a conversation with yourself, helping you process your feelings and work through challenges.
Physical Activity: Regular exercise releases endorphins, which are natural mood lifters. Engaging in physical activity can help you manage stress and promote emotional well-being.
Self-control is not about rigid restraint or not enjoying life’s pleasures; rather, it’s about channeling our inner strength to properly navigate the maze of emotions and desires. It’s about being aware that even if instant gratification offers you a thrill, the real magic lies in the consciousness of your every action.