Fantasies are our minds’ secret treasures. They are those stories we randomly make up in the quiet corners of our mind. They can be wild, romantic, daring, and absolutely surreal. Whether they make you smile, giggle, wonder ‘what if’, they are an essential aspect in our human brain.
In the world of sexual encounters, no one has the ‘balls’ to say out loud what they truly desire in the back of their heads. One, because it’s the fear of judgment, and two, because it’s the fear that people can’t relate to your crazy fantasy. But, that’s what makes them amazing! The mystery, the unknown, the fact that it’s something new.
Now, I am not only talking about one-night stands, or about friends with benefits, I think I am mainly talking about long-term relationships. I don’t know why, but I feel like when you only meet up with someone for a night or a few times, it’s somewhat easier to tell them what you’d really like. Not necessarily getting very very deep into your fantasy, but at least the tip. :))))
Why? Because it’s easy. They are people you are not going to spend a lot of time with and you don’t really care for them. Ok, maybe this excludes fucking your friends for a night or two or three. This scenario is something else. Your friends are people who are very present in your life.
Maybe for some couples things work without sharing their fantasies, for some everything might revolve around them. Either way, there might be the fear of judgment, rejection, or even feeling too vulnerable. Our desires are our most intimate thoughts and it takes a lot of trust and courage to say them out loud. But, when you do it can deepen your connection tremendously.
Our fantasies can reveal a lot about our hidden fears, desires, and insecurities. It’s like a window into our subconscious. They can be a mirror reflecting our inner world, and that can be both enlightening and a bit scary. It’s like peeking into the Pandora’s box of our own psyche, and it reminds us that we’re so complex with layers of emotions and desires, all mixing together in the enchanting chaos of our minds.
Also, fantasies are like therapy sessions in disguise, helping us process our feelings. They’re growing and adapting as we do. What you fantasized about in your teens might be very different from your fantasies in your 30s or 40s. It’s like a journey through the pages of your own life story, each fantasy marking a chapter in your personal evolution.
The beauty of fantasies is that they’re uniquely yours. They can be as wild or as tame as your heart desires. Remember, fantasies are not meant to replace reality but to enhance it. They can add spice to your life, deepen your connection with yourself and your partner, and even inspire you to pursue new adventures.